Men and women… we may speak the same language, but that doesn’t mean we understand each other. A study found that words and phrases can have different meanings for each of us when we discuss. That is why, sometimes, we cannot communicate without arguing. But if you’re willing to put in some effort, you can learn how to communicate better with each other, with just a little bit of psychology. Here are the tips:
1. Women: Don’t get caught up in unnecessary details in messages.: There is evidence that women read messages with their husbands very carefully, getting caught up in small elements. Men, on the other hand, are more different, as they don’t try to find meaning in what is written. Understanding each other’s desires helps you make the difference.
2. Men: Don’t advise, just listen: Women tend to see communication as a way to explore feelings with their partners. She doesn’t ask for solutions!… But men tend to think of clear solutions, healthy advice and want to say them as soon as possible. He wants to give advice, while she just wants to be heard.
3. Women: Appreciate the fact that he wants to support you: When men see that their partner has a problem, they just want to stand by her and support her by putting their energy into solving the problem. This means that he will explore different problem-solving tactics and try to communicate them to her. In the meantime, it requires an attentive listener. The man can really help by asking heartfelt questions so he can understand her better and make sure she knows she has someone listening by her side.
4. Women: Realize that men also spend “quality” time with themselves: Men are often accused of being uncommunicative or withdrawn, and from the outside, this may seem true. But women can gain a lot if they try to understand the reasons for this behavior. If the partner does not speak, it is likely that he is simply taking a break from his problems. This mini-vacation might include playing video games, watching TV, or reading. Don’t worry about it – just give it the space it needs! And make sure you make him feel like everything is going to be okay by showing him that you trust your partner.
5. Women: Try to have clearer intentions: Women and men are different in the way they say things. Women are slightly more indirect than men, tend to avoid direct accusations, and may prefer to start with indirect accusations.
6. Men: Make sure she knows you’re listening: Partners vary in their communication styles through verbal responses, physical contact, and eye contact. In general, men do not make an effort to make their partner listen through eye contact or other verbal cues such as, “aha … oh … well … yeah …”. On the other hand, women place great importance on constant feedback to make sure their partner is listening.
7. Women: Try to see a task as just a task: Men tend to work with their boss even if they don’t like the task given to them. While women get stressed and discuss a lot about what they have to do. Also, they want to believe that they will do every task together with their partner. They both may have the same objective in mind, but the way and speed with which they achieve it, are different!:
8. Women: Realize that men often need to do something while they talk: He may just be looking for a better environment to discuss the problem, while she is trying to discuss everything at that moment! This can cause even bigger debates.
9. Men: Don’t hesitate to ask for help: They may realize that the need to ask for help is a reflection of their inability to achieve something. Meanwhile, for women, offering advice is perceived as a sign of caring for someone else. To bridge this gap, try to be as clear as possible about your intentions, rather than letting the other person assume that you are asking for help as a way to highlight their weakness.
10. Women: Realize that men are selective listeners: Men are “selective listeners”. They will listen as much as they deem necessary to find a solution. On the other hand, women show greater appreciation for verbal and non-verbal cues and may be offended if these two are not present.
